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Keeping Shabbat

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Shabbat is probably the most difficult mitzvah for me to write about much less practice. However, it is the most important ritual mitzvah, and therefore worthy of further contemplation.  Conceptually it is also perhaps the most spiritually valuable mitzvah: all individuals are relieved of the labors of everyday life, you have the opportunity to contemplate the spiritual aspects of life and can spend time with family and friends. Unfortunately it also happens to involve some of the most difficult restrictions of any observance or festival days in Judaism. Those restrictions are split into two commandments: to observe or Shamor and to remember or Zakhor.

I find it especially difficult to fulfill the first commandment to guard or observe. I take issue with some of the precepts surrounding the term guard; you can’t grow or prepare food, you can’t create or build, you can’t handle objects that are used during the week for work, you aren’t allowed to do things that are not in the spirit of the day or rather are weekday in spirit. When I kept Shabbat, based upon those restrictions, I did next to nothing from the time I lit the candles on Fri night to when the sun went down on Saturday. Arguably, being a sloth for close to 24 hours can be excellent for your well being. I’d spend a lot of time reading, playing and resting, and those are all good things, but I’d often not eat, rarely having the presence of mind to prepare food ahead of time. I’d also stay in the house, at times not even dressing until late Saturday for Havdalah. The net effect of all of those things was by Saturday evening I was lethargic and dreading all the things I’d need to do on Sunday to get ready for the week; not some super meditative state where I’d reinter the week feeling all relaxed and energized. After a few months of struggle, I took it upon myself to reinvent the practice to better fit my lifestyle.

You can’t grow or prepare food: The literal translation of this one is impossible and you need to eat to maintain your blood sugar and maintain all those positive vibes (Cranky is definitely un-Shabbat). My somewhat lame attempt to try to follow this restriction is that I try to not actually cook but I do at the very least prepare food.

You can’t create or build: I’ve added to this my own little disclaimer-for profit. I don’t do any work and will not do work that is for monetary gain – no matter what. However, I will create because I do enjoy the feelings you gain from indulging in a pursuit that brings you happiness.

You can’t handle objects that are used during the week for work: for me that is my computer and my phone. Sorry, that’s not happening but I do limit myself to enriching activities and nothing at all work related.

You aren’t allowed to do things that are not in the spirit of the day: Well, I agree that you should never ask people to do your work for you.  So this one is relatively simple for me given the disclaimer I added above.

You aren’t allowed to do things that are weekday in spirit: I try not to talk, think, plan, rehash, or dwell on my work week at all. I take some time pre-Shabbat, Friday afternoons to let go of all of that mess and start Shabbat with a clean heart and an open mind.

The other aspect of Shabbat is reflection: There are all kinds of rituals that are special to Shabbat and all are designed to remember the day; the lighting of the candles, eating challah and prayers on Friday evenings, to the family meals and the ritual of Havdalah on Saturday. While I don’t often perform the specific rituals I do translate their significance to whatever activity that I do.

I do wholeheartedly believe that the concept of Shabbat as a method to break up the separate segments of your existence is an excellent idea. Take a simple break from your work life, reflect for a day and do whatever it is that makes you happy and relaxed. Enjoy your time and be aware of all that is good in your life. Simply appreciate what you have and the opportunity to be.

 

January 2017 Goals – Getting on a Schedule

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Well I would like to firmly say that I accomplished my goal in October to start the new year off with a set of life affirming habits but not entirely. Between work and some lovely surgical side effects, I’ve been in maintenance mode, just focusing on getting through the day to day. When I looked back on that post in the process of setting my goals and resolutions for 2017, I realized that I have at least settled on the habits that I feel I need to either make a priority or get in place – things that I should be doing regularly, either on a daily, weekly or monthly basis

Which brings me to January.

This month my goals is simply to get my schedule under control, finding the time I need to do those habits that positively support my goals.

For health, the one thing that I really miss the most about my life since my Cushing’s diagnosis is running. Running every day just got painful as I got heavier and once I stopped my stamina took a nose dive. I picked up a slow start program off of the Runner’s World site that focuses on deliberate progression from walking to running in about 21 weeks. That combined with all of the other activities on my list should help me ease back into running without injury. I’d like to say that it’ll help me get the weight off but I don’t think I’m there yet, at least it’ll halt the gaining (I’m up about 18 pounds since my surgery in late September).

Relationships are a little more difficult to tie directly to a specific habit, I’m thinking that is really more pf a priority shift, spending more quality time with the folks’ I am closest to, making room for new activities and connections and taking time to make sure everyone in my life knows how much I appreciate them.

Creativity, I’m a little ashamed to say, has been put on the schedule. I know if I don’t make the time for it, it just isn’t going to happen. It’s not spontaneous at all but I am going for habits. I have a couple of nights a week to work the craft projects, regular time than I’ve blocked off to spend on writing and some ‘free’ blocks that I hope will turn into more focused expression times… where I can go with my mood or inspirations.

I used to be so tied to my calendar, if it didn’t make it on their it just didn’t get done, and was very disciplined about sticking to it. This last couple of months, I shifted over to just having a to do list and have found that I’m far more likely to put things off that way, or start procrastinating.

So, there you have it, my only real goal for January is to stick to my schedule with priorities in place should I have a conflict. Easy enough!